My Journey to Solo Motherhood: The First Year- Episode 2

30th March 2013

On Monday I took my mum and my best friend to the open day at the Agora Clinic in Hove.

We were met by a very friendly receptionist and sat down to a presentation by Dr Carole Gilling-Smith , the Consultant Gynaecologist and Medical Director. My eyes skimmed the room, checking out the other attendees. There was one same sex couple, two women I helped use the coffee machine who looked about my age, and about 5 other couples, men and women who all looked in their late 30s early 40s.

Looking around I felt lucky knowing that as far as I know my fertility isn’t in question. For some people in the room this must have been their last option after years of trying to conceive.

The presentation was really interesting. Did you know that by the time we’re 5 months gestation in our mother’s wombs we’ll have all the eggs we’ll ever have, by the time were born we’ve already lost half our eggs and once we hit 12 years old we’ve only got a fraction left!

The team were completely non judgmental, and didn’t even ask about my circumstances when I said I wanted to be a single mother by choice. I found out the next part of the process (blood tests and base line ultrasound scan on day 2 of my cycle) and went away with a price list!

Carole said a tubal patency test wasn’t needed at this point as I didn’t have any known fertility problems. The only thing that worried me slightly is being constrained by their office hours. If day 2 of my cycle is on a Saturday I’ll have to wait till day 4 on the Monday and then try and get time of work to attend. Still I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it, and as I’m not planning on being ‘basted’ till September I have a few months on my side.

So now I’m just waiting for my next period.

Since then I’ve been trying to remember to do my daily BBT (basal body temperature). The temps I’ve taken so far are quite erratic. BBT should be lower during the first 2 weeks of your cycle and then should raise by half a degree following ovulation and then stay that way till your next period. So far mine doesn’t seem to follow any pattern but then my cycle might not have quite settled down since coming off the pill in January.

I’ve also started to think of other ways I can help get myself ready, I’m going to start looking at the best diet I should be on and the vitamins I need. I really need to start exercising too!

So that’s it for now, I’ll check back in on day 1 (hopefully in the next week or two).

Chockablock checking out!

📷 December 1984 – Me with my first baby!


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